Introduction These are not my words in entirety. These simultaneously are and aren’t my stories. In this art of Arrangement—a Cento, not unlike Blackout poetry—I’m taking the elegant, crafted words of other people’s stories and hand-rearranging them to tell my…
Yesterday I went to a vigil for yet another murdered Black trans woman here in Washington DC, victim of a hate crime. Dream Johnson should still be here, and her family shouldn’t be mourning her loss. Her family said they…
Introduction I want to start this off by saying that this is not fodder for “socialization” theory. Do not skim this and start linking it as “proof” that male/female socialization exists, it does not. I’m not here to talk about…
Don’t look away from all this. It will hurt. It will be overwhelming. It’s a fraction of what I’ve gone through since February 2023, however long it takes you to read this instead of over a year. If you’re part…
TWs; racism, gaslighting, abuse, transmisogynoir ~~~ Let’s talk Kink While Black. I joined my local kink community at 18. Trained under two different dom/mes in my home state, I started teaching basic sensory play, bloodless knife play, and other sensory…
I’ve been trying to write these stories for two weeks. Despite the fact that I’ve told these stories so many times at this point, the act of committing them in this way, of trying to pull as much detail out…
The BIPOC Attention Tax is the penalty that non-white folks pay in engagement for being non-white on social media sites. This takes form in less shares and visibility on any post, streams, or similar content when people are able to…
One of the most insidious side-effects I’ve witnessed repeatedly regarding transmisogyny, outside of the way it directly harms transfemmes, is the fact that because so few people are willing to stick up for transfemmes when the chips are down, we…
Something that white folks with one or more marginalized identities (trans, orientation, disabled, etc.) have a hard time coming to terms with is that even their suffering is bolstered by their whiteness. This doesn’t mean that you didn’t suffer, but…